Today is Mothering Sunday. I read up on the history of mothers' day and why we celebrate it and it was indeed a fascinating read. If you're interested, check out http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/christianity/holydays/motheringsunday_1.shtml.
As I grew older, it dawned on me that my mother wasn't cruel, vile or evil. Neither was she the great witholder of access to fun, she was just a mum. She wanted her children to love God, love each other, be successful and be independent. Period. When I was growing up, I had to be in the house by 7pm and by 6pm on Wednesdays and Sundays cos I had to make dinner for the family and on wednesdays and sundays, we ate beans, so it had to be on earlier. I absolutely hated her for this, cos it meant I couldn't go to parties etc. But when I grew older and I left home, I was so impossibly disciplined that I scared people. The things I was taught by my mum came in handy in those years I wasn't under her roof. She would come to visit and people would say to her how I was so well mannered and hardworking. It made both of us laugh cos no one saw how hard I kicked against learning all the things that now bring me praise.
Anyways, I now appreciate my mum a lot and see her in a different light. She wasn't trying to ruin my life, she was trying to ensure I had a good one. I am nothing without my mum's incessant prayers and her relentless efforts to make the best out of me, be it by smacking or speaking to me. My siblings got a slightly less full on mum cos my parents philosophy to raising kids (which they're happy to share with anyone) is: get the fist one right, and the others will fall in place. Not because you stop raising them, it just becomes easier.
So on this Mother's day, mummy, I want to say thank you for everything you've done. You are a great woman, the embodiment of all I want to be when the time is right. A woman who would spare nothing to see her children achieve greatness. A virtuous woman, a praying woman. The glue that holds our family together. You deserve all the rewards you're reaping now and more. You will live to see us exceed the greatness you had planned for us. You will live long to reap the fruits of your labour on each and everyone of us. We love you so much. And on this day set aside to specifically celebrate mothers, I celebrate you. Thank you for everything ma.
Final thots: on this mothers day, I'm sending a lot of love to my friends that are mothers and expecting mothers. You've lived with your mums and the time has come for you to be mums too. You will all be extremely successful in this venture in Jesus' name. Your children will be for signs and wonders and the grace and love of God will be with you all.
If you happen to read this post, give your mothers a big squeeze and just tell them how much you love and appreciate them. As Africans, we assume that people should know these things but we don't go out of our way to say them. Make an exception for today. And whatever rift exists between you and your mum, today is the day to set it aside because if not for anything, she gave you life. Mums are special beacuse apart from the love of God, the love of a mother is the next most unconditional love out there.